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A good basic rule when it is up to help your child to find new friends is to do it as less as possible. You can always invite the kids from the neighborhood to visit your home and to provide a room and toys for play, but immediately after that just leave the room. Check from time to time what’s going and if there is some quarrels or some offended kid just try to calm down the situation. There is nothing wrong to make your kid a friend with the children of your friends, but don’t try to choose his friends in the school. Let your child do that alone without any intervention from your side.

The children need to communicate with each other for many reasons, but the most important of them is that they don’t think like adults. Therefore, their play during this age is kind of the dramatization of situations which disturb them. For example, if there is a baby in the home or the child has younger brother or sister, then that child can play the role of the younger kids during the group game of a family or can be the strict parent who always punishes his children. Your main duties during this period are to provide all the needed toys and to encourage such group games. You can use for the purpose different dining and kitchen sets, plastic dinosaurs, animals and dolls. There are many popular movies which can provoke such group games to continue for hours, it’s much better than watching TV or playing PlayStation.

Be careful and listen if the children irritate each other or make different allies between each other, it’s really common during this age. If you hear words like “I hate you “, then it’s time to step in. Try to calm down the children and made them to give a hug to each other and simply try to distract their attention. Some snack and sandwiches are ideal for that purpose. And don’t forget to let them fix their relationship by themselves.

If your child doesn’t want to participate in the group games, it may sound strange, but there is nothing to worry about. Most like everything is okay and your child simply show the so-called” busy” behavior. Most likely such children are just playing with puzzles or different books. They are more interesting at the moment in such toys and they will join the group game after they finish. The best possible reason for such a behavior is because this kid is more concentrated than his coeval and is not so interesting from different wildly games.

The situation is completely different if the kid stays away from the group and watches it sadly. Then you have to try to involve the child in some polite way in the game. The shy kids are doing better in small, more organized groups which include 1-2 years younger kids.

It’s very important to make your child more active and positive person during this age. There are certain ways which can help you to achieve your goals. During this age your child obtains essential habits which will play huge role during his further development. Check out below some useful tips which will help you to stimulate the physical activity of your kid.

It’s a little bit hard, but you have to let your child to choose which sport to practice without any interference. You can share with him your personal thoughts and preferences, but the kid must have the final decision. If it’s different from yours just don’t try to disgorge him. The combination between visual, spatial and communicative skills needed for practicing sports like football and baseball are not so well developed before the age of seven. Therefore, before signing in your kid in any group sports is better to start with activities like swimming and dancing. This is the best way for your child to improve his abilities and to compete with himself. The tourism is also great activity and will help your child to learn more about the nature. It will also brilliantly improve his health and motor abilities. Most of the preschool children managed to ski well if they are taught properly according to their age. Keep that in mind if you have the needed conditions in your area.

There are several taboos which the parents should respect if they want to make the first meeting of their children with the sport pleasant and unforgettable:

• Don’t insist your children to participate in any sports just because you are interested in it or just because the neighbor’s kids practice it. If you were good baseball player when you were young, then just don’t force your kids to play baseball too. There are many situations when the kid is interested in another, incomprehensible for his parents sport. If you are in such kind of situation, then the best thing which you can do is just to learn the rules and encourage your heir.
• Don’t focus your attention on the competitive side of the sport. You should not force your kid to be always a winner. There are many parents who make that mistake, so don’t be one of them. It will help your kid to learn what loss means in his own ways.
• Don’t insist your kid to participate in different sports just for her own satisfaction. If you are football fan, then just accept that your child likes more the rollers instead of the ball. This is the choice of your child, so try to encourage him as much as possible.
• Don’t force your child to train like an adult even his favorite sport. The five years old kid can experience horrible feelings from one hour tennis lesson especially created for adults.

Most of the children usually try several different sports before finding the most suitable for them. Just keep in mind that your child must be happy during the play and it will help you to stimulate his physical activity in the best possible manner.

After the age of 3 the children became more active participants in the morning household tasks. Maybe they won’t be able to fully wear their cloths, but they will be able to put on their socks and pants without any help. During this age you have to encourage your kid to participate in the household duties, because most of the kids try to imitate the behavior of the adults and will be more than happy to help you. You have to take advantage of that period as much as possible. For example, you can ask politely your child to hang his pajama or the towel and never forget to praise his efforts.

Don’t expect your kid to do everything perfectly and be ready to help him when there is a need. Don’t let him struggle with the shoe lace or any other hard task for too long. This can easily make your kids disappointed and frustrated. Even though the task isn’t completely done, don’t forget to encourage him and just tell him that the next time he will do better. It will greatly stimulate your child to achieve better results.

The kids at preschool age must be able to clean their teeth by themselves under your control and small help. Even though they are able to wear their cloths with minimal help, you will face another problem. Most of the children have their own opinion what they want to wear and they may even want to wear sandals during the winter. Most of them probably will have their own morning program which they want to follow and you should not be surprised by that behavior. It is driven from the desire to be independent.

If you want to go through that minor problem then you can just prepare the clothes for tomorrow before going to bed. Give you kid to choose from several different shirts and pants. It will improve his feeling of independence and if you want to make him happier you can even give him small reward for making the right choice. It will help you to be faster in the morning and you can even create some free time for a cup of coffee or better and healthier breakfast.

Try to use the power of playing to stimulate your kid to complete different tasks. For example, tell him in the playful manner – “Let’s see, can you wear your T-shirt while I count to 10”. You can also use the alphabet for that propose or just free your imagination.

You will have a lot of quarrels with the preschool kid, therefore, you should choose very carefully when you have to fight. Most likely the favorite clothes of your kid wants to wear will not be the last fashion scream, but if they are appropriate according to the weather conditions and the daily activities, then ask yourself is it worth enough to mention that his newer clothes are better.

Friends are important part in the development and the life of every kid. The kids play and explore in more creative and effective way when they are together in a group. Unfortunately, there are some shy kids who face different problems in communication and social life. The kids learn from each other different new abilities and are able to have fun longer than the adults want or are capable to. The friends make the child to feel important and improve his self-confidence, but the shy kids meet the surrounding environment in a completely different way.

The shy kids manage to be more social really hard. Even though in the preschool age most of the kids are scared from unknown people and feel uncomfortable in a company with strangers, some of the kids experience very hard time with the adaptation to the surrounding world and people.

Some children, especially the first-born, who were a subject of perfect care and were treated with astonishing love and attention like they are the center of the universe, are really prone to extremely shyness. The reason for that is that they always receive huge admiration and attention from their family without even to put any minimal efforts. Therefore, they are unable to begin a conversation, to answer several simple questions and to show their love to the rest of the world.

Check out below what you can do to help your shy child. It will definitely you help to overcome that unpleasant problem.

• Teach your child how to communicate. Explain him in a simple way that he can go to the rest of the kids and participate in the game. Tell him not to be scared and that you are around and will help him whenever he got a problem.
• When your child is shy, then in the beginning you can limit his play and daily pursuits in smaller groups. Try to organize different games which can be played only by two or three participants. Most of the shy kids feel themselves better in small groups with younger kids or older patronizing children.
• The shy kid is ready for the kindergarten later than the communicative one. If you feel that there is a need, you can always delay the regular visits in the kindergarten for one or two years.
• Prepare your shy child for the upcoming stressful situations which he is going to face. Explain him in the best possible manner to expect, what is allowed and what prohibited. It will help him to face the potential dangers without any obstacles.
• Don’t force your child to achieve any success. More important is not to compare him with the rest of the kids. Don’t criticize his negative actions too much and always mention his positive results.

Use these useful tips as a guide to help your shy child to understand and perceive the surrounding world and people. It’s going to be slow process and you have to be patient and motivated for better results. But with little bit dedication and huge love everything is possible.